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Sunday, April 18, 2021

A social evil of our society - Domestic violence

     

 It is the violence performed or abuse done on anyone nearby. It is absolutely unacceptable in the society, especially in this day and age, where people are educated and aware about the harm it causes to the society. Domestic violence is one of the social practices which act as an obstacle for peace and development in the society and the world.
       Nepal is a country where a lot of social practices take places. May it be good or bad. Domestic violence still prevails in the some households. Mostly, the cases aren't registered of domestic violence. And most registered cases aren't properly investigated. The victims are left with scars for life. They deal with social anxiety, depression, disfigurement, insomnia, etc. They also suffer from many other things that interrupt them from accomplishing anything. It is a life changing experience for those who suffered. They can become socially awkward for life. 
       The victims are mostly women, especially in remote areas where people ignore it to avoid being involved in other's private matters when actually needed. The victims aren't always women though. Most of the times when the men are the victims, the people tend to not believe in them. Every one should be treated equally. Neither the women nor the men should be superior in the society. We shouldn't use be giving priority to just women during such cases. 
       Most domestic violence is the cause of dowry, disputes, arguments,  superstitions, resentment,  mental issues, phsycopathic symptoms, etc. Out of most cases, women or the wives are the victims and their husbands are the culprits. A lot of children also suffer due to witnessing domestic violence on their mothers. They suffer many problems while growing up, it differs on how they take it in. If a children witnesses severe domestic violence, they might suffer from social anxiety and mental illnesses. If a child interferes the fight, it can cause risk of injury and death. It can cause even a bigger problem if the children do not interfere and regret it later. It causes self resentment and develops to depression. 
 Some known cases in Nepal are:
•A 15 year old girl was forced into child marriage. Later, she had 2 children. Her husband was very violent. He abused her verbally and physically. Her case was reported when she was found fainted by her neighbours. The report says, her husband was angry for unreasonable topics so he poured boiling water on her head. The neighbours called 'The Woman's Foundation Nepal ' (WFN). Her husband was put into custody and now the girl has grown up. She is living a happy and safe life with her children.
(Sources:www.womennepal.org)
    
•Another 15 year old girl was married to a man who was 28 years old. He would torment her physically and verbally gave her mental torture. Her husband had affairs with many ladies half his age. He would even abuse his children if they tried to meddle in the fight. Till this day her husband comes and abuses her and her children. According to the article its still not sure if he got punishment or not. The article is quite old so it's not very sure.
(Sources:www.theadvocatesforhumanrights.org)

       A survey was held in Madhesh, Tarai to find the number of wives suffering from domestic violence. Out of 350 women, 137 confessed to have been tortured. The wonen were tormented for various invalid reasons. 11.4% of women were punished for improper care of children. 58% faced torture for going out without telling their husbands. 17% were tortured for arguing their husband and 6.3% faced for burning food. 24.9% faced for not bringing dowry. 4% faced for the above all condition. 3.1% didn't face any form of torture. 
(Sources:www.nepjol.info)

       Many victims suffer not being able to see the face of justice. A lot of cases are unheard of and ignored. We should make the society more aware about it. We can make people aware and spread enlightenment about such matters. We should work forward for the development of human civilization and making the world a better place. 

written by: Shishan Thapa Magar

Sunday, December 30, 2018

आमा


यो धर्ती मा तिमी छैनौ, कता हरायौ आमा  !
कहाँ गयौ सुन्यतमा , कता बिलायौ आमा !!

क्षितिज भन्दा पनी परसम्म, तिमीलाई खोजे
चम्किने तारा भयौकी, त्यो जुन लाई सोधे
यो धर्ती मा  ....

बादल सँगै उडी गयौकी,  निलो त्यो गगनमा
कहाँ भेटन आऊ आमा, तिमीलाई यो जिवनमा
यो धर्ती मा ......

आउछु आमा तिमीलाई भेटन,त्यँही पिॅंडीमा पर्ख
आमा तिमी गयौ एक्लै स्वर्ग,   म छु यहाँ नर्क

यो धर्ती मा तिमी छैनौ, कता हरायौ आमा !
कहाँ गयौ सुन्यतामा , कता बिलायौ आमा !!